Lately I’ve been saying that often. I say it when I see lovers whose sweetness breaks the point of utter saturation; I say it when I hear cheesy lines in stories that are too good to be true; I say it when I see scenes of lovers in movies that are so cringe-worthy they hurt my eyebrows already.
Walang forever. People who hear it from me always tell me how bitter I am. They tend to claim I am humu-hugot (I tried to translate it in english but I realize there is no such term. Oh, the Filipino culture.). They say I am too negative or hopeless. I wish I could agree to them...
When I say walang forever, let it be known to you that it is a lie. Or that I am kidding. Of course I believe in forever. I’ve always believed in forever. It’s been my default setting. I say walang forever a lot, but only for satirical purposes. Just for fun! I know that phrase has been used far and wide these days, but I know not whether people imbibe it in their mindset for real (I hope they don't).
In fact, walang forever is a school of thought one shouldn’t subscribe to. The amount of negativity in this statement is too damn high that there is no room for hope. This phrase seems to flush all possibilities of love (and yes, a happy ending) out the window. Who says love and happy endings don’t exist? And if you do, how long have you been living under a rock?
Perhaps what people got tired of is not love itself, but the overly ideal, unrealistic kind of love that the media has been portraying. Perhaps they got frustrated by the fact that their love stories in real life are not like the ones they see in movies. Or perhaps they just know that in real life, there is pain in love, as opposed to the all-sweet and perfect story that many television shows suggest. It leads them to conclude walang forever in real life.
But as one quote (?) I saw in a social media site says, “Walang forever? Ano ba tingin mo sa lolo at lola natin? Friends with benefits?” Quite sarcastic, pero may point! We may have lost a loved one or had a bad experience in love, but saying walang forever because of that is inconclusive and downright preposterous.
We tend to forget those who have succeeded in love, those who hope in love, and those who continue to love, with all the pain and troubles attached to it. If we have a tally of people who succeeded in love and those who didn’t, I bet the former shall outnumber the latter. Big time. I know it, because I’m a believer of love — not the crappy, nauseating kind we see in movies, but the one that is true, happy, blissful, painful, troublesome, and uncertain. This is the perfect kind of love that no amount of cheesiness in movies can top. This love debunks walang forever. This love is the real forever.
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"Whoever fails to love does not know God, because God is love." 1 John 4:8
